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Focus on the children during divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 9, 2012 | Divorce

Married couples who cannot communicate well and work together to accept their differences may find themselves divorcing. Many couples have gone their separate ways in Columbus, Ohio, and these individuals know that a divorce can be an extremely tough time. When spouses split, it is likely that each of them will focus on themselves in order to address emotional and financial issues that are becoming apparent due to the divorce and the processes that come along with it.

But what about when there are children involved? Many experts agree that children are the innocent victims of divorce and they will have to deal with the emotional consequences of the split for the rest of their lives, especially if the situation is not addressed properly. That is why some people believe that a divorce that involves children should be centered on those children and what is best for them.

This means that former couples need to realize that they will be linked for the rest of their lives, whether they like it or not. The child they share will need to be cared for by both parents and this means that the ex-spouses will have to come up with parenting plans and agreements so that the child has both parents in her or his life. Once parents come to the realization that the child communication will be key to the future of their children, the divorce may become more amicable.

Other tips for divorcing parents involve maintaining boundaries between the problems that belong to the parents and those that belong to the children. Do not complain to your child about your former spouse-no matter how old they are. That former spouse is still her or his parent and hearing about the perceived wrongdoings of your ex can confuse the child’s emotions and alter the perception she or he possesses of the other parent.

Source: Huffington Post, “Parenting Tips While Going Through Divorce,” Micki McWade, Oct. 30, 2012

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